One Thing Husbands and Wives Should Absolutley Know

A quick piece of info that I share at every party:

There's one thing out there, ONE THING that has made all the difference in our marriage.

It seems to me like it should have been obvious, but it wasn't, and so I thought maybe there were others out there who could benefit from this info as well.

We watch movies and see "sex" and "making love" as an on demand kind of thing where both parties are so in the moment, and it always works out wonderfully (at least in the moment) and both parties are just dripping with euphoria when all is said and done.

Unfortunately, as I have come to learn, that is just not the case.

You see there is a disconnect for most women between desire to be intimate, and actual arousal. It's much easier for men in the sense that arousal is so closely related to physical response.

For women, we tend to let our brains get in the way.

We worry about things that are over and done with, things that won't happen for another week, and things that couldn't possibly happen except as the worse side effect of the worst outcome of the worst case scenario.

And still... we worry about them.

We worry about the kids, housework, our husbands, jobs, etc. and then we let it overwhelm us, and it kills our arousal.

So even when we have the desire to be intimate, it's super likely that our arousal won't match.

On top of this, men and women experience sex SO differently.

Women on one hand are like conventional ovens: It doesn't matter how well you follow the recipe, if you don't do the prep work of pre-heating the oven, your recipe will turn out wonky! This is foreplay (physical, mental, emotional- they all play a part) and this is exactly why we need it.

Men on the other hand are wonderfully designed much more like a microwave-- ready to cook at a moments notice.

The two designs are wonderful, but so often we fail to remember our partners needs. Often we are impatient as far as the process goes. We try to skip the foreplay, and sometimes that's okay and the recipe turns out wonderfully. Other times though, we just need to remember the basics: there should be build up. We should put each other first.. And above all it's okay when the recipe doesn't turn out as planned.



** If this was news to you like it was to me, or maybe even just a good reminder, Please remember that this kind of information supports my business. I truly believe in what I do for couples, and all women alike. There is something at a party for everyone, and I invite all of you to reach out and see what I can do for you as a Pure Romance consultant.